Wednesday, October 17, 2012


On the way back from Provo tonight i pulled into a park and just sat there thinking....contemplating.....and sending out heartfelt prayers. For the first time in a VERY long time, these prayers were not just "Please bless me, Please give me, Please take away" It was one SIMPLE statement that gave me the most inner peace that I have felt in a long time. "Please help me understand.". I know that this understanding will not happen overnight. I know that this understanding might not happen for months, years, or even in this lifetime. What i do know is that HE heard me. And he did the one thing he could do for me without taking away my agency. He calmed me with his comfort and love. It warms my heart still......knowing that this happened without having to call on the priesthood power. Knowing that it happened because I was listening. Knowing that this happened because I FINALLY after years and years am coming to a understanding how he works just a bit.

As many of you know I am one of the most relationship  marriage, baby loving women out there. Nothing, NOTHING in this world would bring me greater joy than to be a wife, and mother. And for years and years, one by one I have watched people around me get this. And many times i sat there thinking, "What did i do wrong?" "Why don't men see me how my girl friends see me?", "And why in the Hades do I keep finding the fixer upper men?" I have cried many tears, punched many pillows, and screamed at many stars in my years trying to figure this out. Recently while talking to one of my male friends, we talked about how in the church we are always told to be patient and have faith. And because we are both single, most of the time that statement is tied to "Why am I not married or dating a good man/woman?". As we were talking I remember saying something like "Now hear what I am about to say. I am not saying that I do not believe in God and that being patient and having faith isn't a good answer. What i am saying is that I do not think it is all there is to the answer." I then went on to talk about how for so many years I have fallen into the trap of "If i wait MY 'perfect' half will come." Believing that it was JUST timing. Given that is part of is not all of it.

God is real, and i have no doubt in the world that he loves me and answers my prayers. But if we follow the Plan of Salvation and really pay attention we are told that Satan's way was cast aside because he wanted to MAKE US do things. Christs way was chosen because he wanted us to have our AGENCY. To me that doesn't mean that God is up there with a little chess pawn piece waiting to put the King in my corner. He is up there waiting for ME to put the King in my corner. He is not going to do it for me. He is going to tell me how to do it! He is not going to take away my agency so I can't learn some lesson. Now before y'all go off about how i am wrong let me say this. This answer just might be different for others. But for me that moment of that inner peace in my car tonight with tears flowing down my face as to why the men that ARE my 'perfect man' don't find me as their perfect woman it hit me. And i remembered part of my patriarchal blessing that always alarmed me. However, now it just comforts me. I can not sit here and wait for God to make this happen. I can't sit here and keep being so negative about relationships  men, and dating. Why? Because reality is.....It is no ones fault but mine. I am single because I, ME, am not ready. There is something I am missing, and by golly when i figure it out you bet your sweet roll i will fix it. And when that happens....Watch out men. It is not going to be that i am not endowed, it is not going to be the size of my waist line, it is not going to be my education. It is going to be something that encompasses all of that. And i can put a good wager on the fact it is going to have to do with trust, understanding, brotherly kindness, and being submissive like a child. When i can posses more of these traits that Ruth had, I will find a man that will love me more than anything. And to him i will be worth more than all the rubies in the world. Bring it on!!!!!

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